目的：探究青年夫妻婚姻匹配模式的形成、完善及其对婚姻关系的影响。
方法：均衡地区代表性抽取10对中国城市的青年夫妻,进行半结构化深度访谈,并采用扎根理论对访谈内容进行分析。
结果：匹配的实质是婚姻交换中双方的需要被满足;婚姻建立阶段基于主动的择偶形成关于“资源等价”“特质契合”的初期匹配;婚姻建立之后通过调适形成关于“关系边界”“关系经营”“角色分工”和“权力关系”的具体匹配;达到高需求层次的匹配和内在匹配更为重要。
结论：婚姻匹配的实质是婚姻交换中双方需求得以满足,是一个动态而复杂的过程。个体在择偶时需要对双方心理资源以及性格和观念的契合性认真评估和权衡。一旦婚姻建立,双方则需要在具体的互动中持续调适。幸福婚姻的匹配模式并非刻板的严丝合缝,而是一种富有弹性、能够适应变化的动态平衡。
Objective: To explore the formation, perfection, and influence of marriage matching patterns of young couples.
Methods: A balanced regional representative sample of 10 young urban Chinese couples was selected for semi-structured interviews, and the interview contents were analyzed using grounded theory.
Result: The essence of matching is the satisfaction of the needs of both parties in the marriage exchange. The initial matching of ‘resource equivalence’ and ‘trait fit’ is formed based on active mate selection in the marriage-building stage. After the establishment of marriage, specific matching patterns such as ‘relationship boundary,’ ‘relationship management,’ ‘role division,’ and ‘power relationship’ are formed through adjustment; It is more important to achieve the matching of high demand level and the internal matching.
Conclusion: The essence of marital matching lies in the mutual satisfaction of needs in the marriage exchange, which is a dynamic and complex process. When choosing a partner, individuals need to carefully assess and weigh the compatibility of each other's psychological resources, personalities, and beliefs. Once the marriage is established, both parties need to continuously adjust through specific interactions. The matching pattern of a happy marriage is not a rigid, perfectly fitting one, but a dynamic equilibrium that is flexible and adaptable to change.
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